‘Information’ Category Archives


Health Care Reform

by Pj in Information, Random, Teaching

I do not even try to pretend to understand the political issues being bantered back and forth between parties, families and friends.  Everyone is so heated and convinced that the “other side” means harm to our freedoms and country. With all the noise and rhetoric, I feel I am not getting an objective point of view. So I try to expose myself to both sides and hopefully I can get a sense of what is real.
Next week the firm is sponsoring an event that will try to explain the consequences of the reform to small and medium sized business owners. It should be interesting. One of the perks of the job. Getting an education.

Health Care Reform Seminar


I’m Sorry…

by Pj in Information, Random

head hitI realize I’m a little slow on the uptake. I actually believe what everyone says to me. It is later, as I begin to dissect the conversation that I realize something does not ring true.  Or sometimes you have to hit me over the head.

Take for instance, apologies.  It took me years to realize that the rare apologies I occasionally received were not apologies at all. And it wasn’t that I figured that out all by myself.

There are times in life, no matter who you are; that people will say or do something that is wrong, hurtful, selfish, or mean.

Please don’t Eleanor Roosevelt me.  I am not as tough as she and never will be. I do not give anyone permission to hurt my feelings, but occasionally it occurs. Some choose to attribute my hurt feelings to hormones, chocolate or the weather. I blame it on people being thoughtless and cruel. It happens. And as a result, being human, it affects me.  That is what is true for me.

And to be clear, I am not innocent in the hurting of feelings department.  I have had to extend my apology to those I wronged. It was difficult. I felt humiliated, but at the end of it all, the relationship was stronger and ironically so was I.

But the hitting me over the head occurred one night in the distant past. After explaining my hurt feelings to an offender I said, “Don’t you think you should say you are sorry?” The offender laughed. I was told quiet clearly that I had never received an apology and frankly never would. I begged to differ. I pointed out the few times I received one and quoted the dialogue back to refresh memories.

This was answered again with laughter.

“What I said was, ‘I’m sorry you feel bad about what I said or did. ”

I sat there stunned. Then I laughed. I mean really, how very clever. Carefully chosen words that never did and never would admit fault, sorrow or contrition.

The consequences fell back on me.

I guess it could be worse.  I mean to never receive any sort of apology at all might be worse.  And I can tell you from personal experience I think it feels worse.  It kind of makes me feel discounted and just not worth the effort or maybe the relationship is not worth the effort.  Where’s Eleanor when you need her?

For those of you who choose to get defensive or angry or choose to take this all personally…

I am sorry you feel bad about what I wrote.

See, I can be clever too.


Know Better to Do Better

by Pj in Information, Random, Teaching

Today I went to lunch with my son. We met in a crowded place. Along the back wall was a long table with 4 tall chairs. Two friends choose to sit in the middle two chairs. I pulled out one of the end chairs and sat down. They saw us, but did not offer to move over so we both could sit down. My son stood there waiting for the gesture. Grown men in their 30’s. Finally my son asked if they would mind scooting down so we could all sit down. They complied, but really?

It wasn’t about being gallant or gentlemanly. It was about being kind, considerate and human.

I asked my son, “I hope your mother raised you to know better.”

I believe they KNEW better too. They just didn’t want to do better. It wouldn’t be cool.

By the way. Kony 2012. Because we now know and now we can do. Cool or not.



by Pj in Information, Random

Last week on a business trip I read the magazine on the plane. (another small pj issue) It enlightened me on the future, our future.

Imagine making arrangements to meet a friend or spouse at a restaurant for a 6 p.m. dinner appointment. You are driving toward the restaurant when you get a text message from your favorite store, which conveniently is on the way to the restaurant. They have your favorite pair of pants on sale, 25% off. You head on over, park, walk into the store and your pants are waiting for you in the arms of the customer service rep of the day. You purchase them with your phone and you are on your way again making it to your appointment with time to spare.

This is possible because everything we do and everywhere we go is being tracked, logged and stored… today.

Our behavior, our buying habits, our likes and dislikes are being placed into a huge data base that companies already utilize to gamble on…you. And if we know anything about gambling, we know the house always wins.

And I imagine we will feel grateful. Less time, less effort, less hassle in our busy lives. It is convenient. It is expedient. It is smart. It is also just a tad big brotherish, but it is the technological world in which we live.

Now I could get on my soapbox and yell at the world to stop the madness, but really what would be the point. Instead I will dwell on the possibilities and ask myself, how can I monopolize on this information? I’m pretty sure someone is gambling that I am not smart enough, determined enough or connected enough to figure out how to do that.

House wins.


Every Life is Special

by Pj in Family, Film Production, Information, Random, Teaching

A few years ago I had the opportunity of producing a life documentary of an amazing woman.

She had a remarkable life. She traveled and lived in foreign countries working, teaching and serving. Her and her husband were instrumental in building and operating a large teaching Academy in Mexico City. For three years they lived in Ecuador helping and teaching the people of that country. Many former students acknowledge her and her family for supporting them financially and emotionally. Many credit their success in achieving their goals to her unwavering faith in them. All of this is now documented for her family and friends. All she accomplished remains an invitation to her posterity to live happy productive lives.

In the process of documenting her life I interviewed her children, her siblings, her friends. One morning I traveled to her brother’s home. He had not been well, but he was willing to share their mutual upbringing with me. During the interview, I was equally amazed by this man’s life. He too traveled the world impacting the lives he touched. After the interview his wife asked me about doing a life documentary of him. I readily agreed, after all their early history was already done.

She sadly informed me that years earlier they had been robbed. All of their pictures and video’s were gone. With this information it seemed even more vital to get a visual and oral remembrance of his life. She felt it was important to document what he remembered but wanted to ask her daughters what they thought. I offered the material I had already accumulated and some suggestions.

A few weeks later I contacted this couple again. They had decided to let their daughters do it.

Last year the man died. His daughters had the best of intentions. They also had very busy lives that did not allow the time and energy required to research, interview, document and edit… As a result they have limited sources documenting his voice, his memories, his mannerisms or his essence.

The life of this man is not lost or forgotten. His children still have fond memories of their father, but their posterity could have known him through the stories he might have shared. They could of heard his voice and looked into his eyes to become better acquainted with their grand and great grandfather. They could have enjoyed his sense of humor and learned from his life experiences because he shared it with them and for them. And maybe, just maybe when times get hard, and they always do, his life would be the touchstone to get through them and become a better person because of the journey.

So, don’t wait to document your life. Don’t wait for someone else to do it. So many say, “my life wasn’t anything special.” I disagree. Every life is something special.

This is your life and it counts too.

So just do it.



by Pj in Information

Anybody know who these people are? I want to hear more.




by Pj in Information

I’m sure you’ve enjoyed this piece already, but it truly is inspiring.



Steve Jobs 1955-2011

by Pj in Information, Random

“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to do what you love. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.” – Steve Jobs


Tony Bennett

by Pj in Information, Random

I like the rain. Warm chocolate chip cookies, a good book or movie, a fire and soft pillow talk music.

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