December, 2010 Archives


Opportunity is Not Equal

by Pj in Film Production, Information, Random

This year I have taken the opportunity to research out historical events that relate to freedom, equality and what nations and people have done and continue to do in the name of progress and civility.

There are times where I have had to stop reading and walk away for days and weeks and even months because of the events documented in journals, reports and the memories of those who survived being the impediments of civilized society.

Sometimes it is difficult with these haunting images to find pleasure and even purpose in this life or in relationships that are fragile and ephemeral. History, written and oral, showcase the character of humans. I introspect on my own principals and code of conduct and am fearful with how weak I might be in similar situations and circumstances.

I have come to appreciate the bliss in ignorance.

I also have come to understand better in opportunity. This year is winding down and as we burden ourselves again with the idea and hope and dreams of new beginnings on January 1st, what is true is that new beginnings exist with every moment and with every breath.

The sun continues to provide the energy we all need to thrive. We wake and breathe and live near sighted in what is possible. Some in the most dismal situations find and embrace any opportunity. And if none are present they pursue the whirlwinds and distant mirages until they capture and grasp all they imagine and work until it is real and tangible.

I often experience paralysis at the abundance of opportunities and choices. What if I choose poorly? And the opportunity slips away and it’s absence is, at times, a welcome relief.

Some stand on the shore drowning in apathy and indifference. Excuses abound and ‘yea but’s’ sputter forth floating away on the wind. Age fades youth’s innocence and memory of what could have been and what should have been.

We all have but one life and it is our own to own and live and error and forgive and learn and discover the opportunity that is uniquely ours to imagine, pursue and create.

And maybe in the success of our pursuits the inhuman, unspeakable, unforgettable atrocities would diminish as the creative goodness and genius within all of us is exposed, nurtured and embraced.

Breathe this moment. It is yours for the taking. It is mine.


Christmas in Review

by Pj in Family

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Christmas 2010

Breanne opened her gift and said, "I’ve waited three years to get these pajamas.

I think she’s a keeper!


It was fun to have my folks join us this year for Christmas.


All Is Right In My World

by Pj in Family

There is something special when you get to break bread at the table with all of your children present.

And added to that is to have your parents present as well.

A wonderful memory. Perhaps a new tradition. Who thought eating out on Christmas Eve could be so wonderful?

And now I can hear Wistie on the piano accompanying her father while he fills the house with music.

Ciera is planning the songs for tomorrow’s reading.

Saac will arrive shortly for our Christmas Eve slumber party.

I think they will be making a midnight run to Walmart.

Kids! Love watching them bicker and tease and hug each other.

All is right in my world.

Merry Christmas.


Just a Theory

by Pj in Family

I have a theory.

Ok. I have lots of theories.

But consider my observation…

Through years of study I noted that anyone who remodels their kitchen experiences a financial hiccup in their life.

So with that premise, I hypothesize that the kitchen is the heart of the home. Literally. It will tolerate replacing a new appliance when that appliance has cease working. It can adjust to one new fixture at a time. It can grudgingly accept paint or wall paper, but I assert that if you rip out old cabinets, counters and appliances, paint and repair, well you will experience financial repercussions. It is irrelevant if you have saved for these alterations. A kitchen is it’s own world and it abides by it’s own rules.

To prove my theory I agreed to remodel our kitchen. We ripped out the old oiled soaked oak cabinets; we removed the lovely blue Formica countertops. We replaced the dishwasher and stove and microwave. We christened the room by lighting up our deep fryer and allowing the rancid oil to seep into the virgin maple wood. We liked to just walk in the kitchen and look at it. We smiled with pride. You know the kind that appears before the fall. We enjoyed baking again. We enjoyed eating in the room again. We enjoyed a false sense of security in our momentary lapse of judgment.

Six months later… unemployed.

The scientific research substantiates my theory. It is now a universal law. Don’t mess with the heart of your home. It will bring you to your knees.

Possible alternative solution: build a new home from the ground up. Make sure you love it because you should never attempt to remodel it once it has the blood (from skinned knees, paper cuts and sliced vegetabales) sweat (from chasing babies and then being chased by teen-agers around the table) and tears (from laughing until you pee your pants and crying for the same reason.)

If in doubt… In six months we can sit down at your lovely new expandable table and open up your first 5 lb. can of hot chocolate you packed away in food storage.

Just a theory….


bLast Monday

by Pj in Family

Every year I hear others tell the world, usually around Thanksgiving, that they have all of their Holiday shopping done.

Every year I start to think about shopping around December 20th. I always rationalize by saying, “People change their minds about what they hope to receive.”

It works.

This year…. Pretty much the same.

I have been more than a bit under the weather and now I am under the wire, but am feeling a little better everyday. Not that that matters to anyone but me.

I told CieraJo I thought I knew what I wanted for Christmas. Time in the mountains, with a fire, hot chocolate, quiet, no electronics and a good book. She asked if they could have a cabin next door where they could have fun. No one really wants to know do they.

I did receive an early gift, sort of. Chris got a new phone and returned mine! Lovely to be able to communicate with the world again.

Still waiting for that call from Chicago. ARGHHHH!

Tomorrow, the shopping begins, I think. Anyone want to come? Didn’t think so.


Holiday Gift Suggestions

by Pj in Family

“To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.”
Oren Arnold

And Santa, I would really like to get the MacArthur Grant! Just in case you misplaced my list. I believe I’ll know before Christmas, but I will consider it an early Christmas gift that will definitely last all year!


Gift Giving

by Pj in Family


I remember watching Saving Private Ryan with my zero tolerance for violence. I almost left during the first 15 minutes. I often had to close my eyes so I could breathe. At the end the last two words impacted me deeply. We decided, even with the R rating, that our children needed to watch and understand what it meant to “deserve this.”

Times are difficult. These sorts of reminders helps me appreciate what I have, what we all have in this country. We are still free. We can still choose.

What an incredible gift we are still able to receive.

Deserve this.

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